Silver Linings


Sometimes, silver-linings are completely overrated.

Sometimes, though, they become a true blessing.

After returning to school from break, I had my check-up appointment for my stress fracture. I was thoroughly expecting to have at max a few more weeks off and then I’d be dancing my heart away.

Two months is a bit more than two weeks. Needless to say, my life was toppled upside down, having to redo my entire class schedule the day before classes began and coping with a semester without dance.

However, there have been endless silver linings popping up every day, reassuring me that this was meant to happen, all part of a greater plan.

When things don’t go as you expect, sometimes it’s hard to get past that interruption in your life. But if you can manage to set it aside and look at the silver linings, you will be pleasantly surprised at the beauty that can come out of the darkness.


Finding You: The Right Kind of Selfish


A lot of my posts, both recent and long past, seem to be a bit redundant, but I am passionate about many things in life, and one of those is being yourself and valuing yourself. There are many, many points that have been on my mind about this the last 24 hours, so here are three that kind of sum it up:

1. Valuing yourself ≠ Selfish

I believe it is important to make this distinction right off the bat. There is a hug difference between being narcissistic and self-absorbed and valuing yourself and all your qualities, both good and bad. As long as you use your knowledge of yourself for confidence and sharing yourself with others, then you are by no means in the wrong. If you start thinking you deserve better things than other people because of who you are or the things you have accomplished, well then you are the wrong kind of selfish. But go ahead, appreciate yourself because there’s not always going to be someone else to do the job.

2. Never, ever, ever change. Ever.

Did you catch that? Don’t change, for anyone. Granted, if you have an addiction or serious issues that harm others, by all means get help and change. However, there is person inside of you who, if you find them, won’t have to change for anyone. That is the real you, the one who attracts the people you want in your life, the one who finds the perfect significant other without trying, the one who will bring you happiness and contention with your life. Find that person, become that person, and then don’t change for anyone.

3. Stay strong.

These two things combined get really overwhelming. You’ll falter, if not fail at first. It’s okay, we all fail on the daily. But I can promise you that those moments of success at self-fulfillment will be enough to remind you to try again. One of the reasons I am writing all this is because I just came out of the swamp and into the sunny clearing, this time better than ever. After my last post, For All the Lonely People, I realized that I really, really needed to take my own advice. By the time I was falling asleep last night, I was making myself honestly step back and evaluate myself… and I realized that I did not give myself enough credit. I fell asleep thinking about how there is no reason for me to not have self-confidence. I made sure, of course, to clarify with myself point #1, and then I made sure I was fulfilling point #2, and I was left here, at point #3. It’s funny, too, how ever since this transformation occurred, I have receive more compliments than an average day. Maybe it’s just luck, but I personally believe in a Mighty God and I think He’s just trying to make sure I don’t relapse, that He thinks I’m doing something right. I could be wrong, but for right now it seems like a pretty good explanation.

I really want every person who might happen to read this to take a moment to realize your own talents, intellect, passions, and beauty, and how all of these things make you an amazing being unlike anyone else. Consider how all of these gifts of yours can be used to benefit those around you as opposed to staying inside where they feel safest. Then, I want you to honestly and completely embody your own persona, your true self. Maybe you’ll notice a difference, maybe you won’t. But you never know until you try…

For All the Lonely People


Everyone thinks that heartbreak happens after you lose someone in your life, a loved one, a significant other.

They’re wrong.

Heartbreak happens all the time, you just don’t see it half the time. It’s not always like the girl sobbing on the bus because her boyfriend dumped her, or the abnormally quiet girl in the back of the class who just lost her grandfather. Sometimes, it’s the girl who hangs out with her friends and says hi to people in the street or the guy who is always texting someone and gets all the likes on Instagram. Because while these people have friends and smile and laugh, they might still feel alone.

There are different kinds of alone. There’s the alone where your family is gone for the day and you get the house to yourself to jam out to your music and pee with the door open. There’s the alone after you’ve been around your obnoxious friend for way too long. There’s the alone when you don’t have any close friends to talk to. And then there’s the alone when you haven’t felt the deeper love of a significant other for years, and you forgot what it feels like to be wanted in that way.

People will tell you “Oh, you can do better than him” to the guy you thought you had a chance with. Or they might tell you “You don’t need a girl, you have us!” But no matter what the people say, the lonesome person can’t help but feel like they’re doing something wrong. They think about every guy or girl who has even remotely showed any sort of feeling toward them, and they begin to question it. They think about how they talk to everyone and what words they use and if they reply to texts too soon. They wonder if they should have waited for them to send the follow request first, maybe they were being too pushy. They look long and hard in the mirror, wondering what their hair looked like that day, or if they had forgotten deodorant. They step outside themselves and begin to realize that they wouldn’t date themselves, either.

This is where the real problem is. No one should feel so alone and terrible about themselves that they don’t believe in themselves and that they think that they are doing something wrong. The truth is, it’s never the lonely person’s loss, but rather the people who pass them down. I can say from personal experience that this is never the first conclusion a lonely person jumps to–it’s the very last. If they even think about it at all. So this is what I’m here to say today. Because someone has to do something about all of the lonely people.

You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are a catch to someone out there. And they will find you, but they can’t find you unless you let your amazing self show. Because they are looking for you, you just have to open yourself up to be found. You cannot be found if you’re questioning every bit of your existence, because then they will, too. So forget about all the people who have passed you up, because even you know there’s a reason things wouldn’t have worked anyway. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start being proud of yourself. Because you’re going to be one of the few who finds people who don’t just enter their lives but who will stay there til the end. It sucks, but in the end everyone will be envying you. Be beautiful. Be amazing. Be a catch to someone out there.

My Beholding Eyes


I do not think that there are many other sayings that I believe in more than I believe in this one:

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

Beauty is beauty, isn’t it? Yes…but no. There are many things that seem to be universally decided on to be beautiful, like a setting sun or a blooming flower. But I think that much of that is society and what is taught from a young age. What about all of the things that aren’t somehow automatically beautiful? Where do they get their appreciation and admiration?

From beholding eyes.

For example, let’s talk about my beholding eyes. Sunsets of course are beautiful, as are flowers in the springtime. But where I see most of the earth’s beauty is in the places other eyes don’t see or don’t look. I see beauty in the way the sun filters through the tress in the middle of my small town. I see beauty in the rolling hills and valleys in the middle of winter, when the trees are dead and the ground is covered in snow, making the highest mounds and lowest valleys so much more visible. I like to see the beauty in a cloudy day that is fighting off tiny bits of sun, causing the clouds to glow. Or in the way a leaf falls, drifting in the wind and soundlessly hitting the ground. There is beauty in people too, but normally the most beautiful things are not on the outside, but on the inside. They are in the deepest laughs, the eyes that smile, the arms that care, and the hearts that love.

My eyes behold all of these things, largely because they are looking. You don’t have to be looking for beauty to see the sunset that engulfs half of the sky or to see the bright flower garden beside the road. But if you did look for beauty, imagine what you could find! It’s and exciting wonderful thing we’ve all been blessed with. There are all of these things in the world, waiting to be found beautiful by you.

What are you waiting for? Open your eyes to the beauty around you. You might be surprised to see what you’ve been missing.

Music to my ears…heart, soul, and entire being.


So it turns out that I am a music freak. I listen to music whenever possible, and when it’s not possible there is a soundtrack to my life playing in my head. Music has a lot to teach us about life, whether there are lyrics or not, all depending on how you listen:

1. Listen to the words, because words transfer meaning very well (you are reading right now, aren’t you?). You will gain some wisdom and knowledge out of this; however, you will hear the same thing that everyone else hears, or at least on a basic level. You will learn from words, like most of us have our whole lives.

2. Ignore the words (if there are any) and listen to all of the instruments and harmonies that are making a very embellished phrase into music. This way, you listen to the nonverbal message found in the crevices between notes and within chords. You might feel sad, or happy, or have no idea what you’re feeling because you’ve never felt that way before. But here’s where it’s really cool: no one else will feel that same way. Unlike just listening to the lyrics, you are experiencing something entirely different than what anyone else has before. And, what’s really awesome, is that this makes music the true international language. No matter the language someone speaks (and here I need to say: I do know that deaf people exist, and I am terribly sorry that I am not addressing them in the post, but I cannot speak from personal experience and do not want to misinform or mislead), anyone can understand the crescendos and decrescendos, and minor chords and the triumphant fermadas. Some say that love is the international language, but music is almost as qualified to bear the label.

3. Listen to the words and connect them to how the other parts combine together to make the whole. When you combine feelings with words, you get a lot of information at once. You will likely feel overwhelmed, and depending on the song, you with either: a) stop what you’re doing, stare into space, and feel tears well up in your eyes, b) stop what you’re doing, jump up and dance uncontrollably, or c) do both simultaneously.

When there is truly amazing music, and you are hearing it with your whole being, you will know. And you will undoubtedly fall helplessly in love with the beauty of music.